Thursday, December 11, 2008 I was asked the following question:
My mom passed away almost a year ago. My dad wants me to
help pick out a stone for the cemetery. Is there anything I need to know, what
should be on it-etc? We are not the most observant Jews.
was my response:
Go to a Jewish Memorial Headstone company (or even a secular)
and ask them to show you samples of other headstones that they have
1. It should have your late mother's English name; first, and
2. If you know her Hebrew name, that should be there as well.
Let's say that her name was Sarah, and her father's name was Jacob...........the
stone should read Sarah bat Yaacov (just an example.)
3. Her date of birth,
and date of death, (i.e. January 1, 2000 - January 2, 2000.)
have it read something like this: Beloved wife, mother, grandmother,
5. A star of David, or some symbol of Judaism, should be engraved as
I hope this helps you.
you have questions about a personal matter, or jewish practices
and customs, you can submit them to me by e-mail.
I answer all queries directly, or through this column, when the
question is informative to our community.
you for your kind attention and this opportunity to share with you,
Rabbi Dan S. Wiko
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